Category Archives: Self Discipline

Simple not Easy

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Life is simple but far from easy.  Pretty much any and every issue you can think about is actually very very simple.

Take health for example.  If you were to go up to any person on the street with two plates, one with a big mac and the other with broccoli and ask which is healthier – if people were being honest, every single person would say broccoli.  If you were to ask people which is healthier – sitting on the couch watching netflix or *insert literally any form of exercise here* (walking, running, lifting weights, cycling, sports, on and on and on) which would they answer?  Is smoking healthy?  Is drinking excessively healthy?  These are very simple answers, yet difficult for the vast majority of people to act on.

Let’s move on to money.  Folks – it’s so fucking simple I don’t know why I need to type it out.  I could spout countless examples like buying clothes retail, leasing a brand new car, buying that big screen tv so you can sit on your ass all day and eat doritos and watch netflix, how many god damn pairs of shoes do you need??? People know they should be saving instead of spending.  It’s common sense.  It’s freaking so simple yet far from easy.

Now relationships. Ironically people would have much better relationships if they worked on themselves first.  Guys you want to find a girlfriend/wife/fuck buddy?  Quit sitting on your ass playing video games all day and improve yourself.  Family problems?  See the patterns that have been established, get over your damn ego and work on the root of the problems.  This realm can be a tad more complex, but it oftentimes comes down to yourself – because there’s only one thing we have complete control of in this world.

Everyone knows what they should and should not be doing to improve their lives.  The hard part is getting off your ass and doing the things that will make your life better.

Take Action Now: Think about one thing in your life that you want to change. Realize how simple it really is and start taking steps to improve that area of your life.  We all know what we “should” be doing.  Get an accountability partner.  The support you give each other can be just the push you need to get started and continue down the path of self-improvement.  The hardest part is getting started and sticking to it.  Try a 30 day trial. You have to actually want to change and be willing to put in the work to accomplish your goals. If you are struggling with something feel free to send me a message and I will support you in any way I can. 🙂

A New Me and a New Year

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Ok, so for those of you that know me or can tell by my writing style I can be somewhat harsh and lecture people to death. A recent conversation with my wife has helped me realize how I drastically need to change the way I deal with different people in order to have a greater chance of affecting them in a positive way. No one wants to be harped on. No one wants to be told they are in the wrong. Even if what I am saying is the truth. This has been a hard fact for me to swallow. My typical rebuttal would be something along the lines of, “it’s the truth and this is the only way and the truth hurts so deal with it.” While it may be true, it won’t necessarily help the other person change their actions.

While we all know what we “need” to do to improve our lives, actual behavioral change is quite difficult. I was recently reading an old article by Ramit who talks about this fact. I used to be one of those people who preached about how “easy” it is to lose weight, eat healthier, spend less, improve yourself, etc etc. I should know, however, that it is actually quite difficult for most people to change their behavior, even when they know they should and what they need to do. You cannot simply “try harder” in most cases.

Ramit also talks about active and passive barriers in another article and is a great read towards trying to automate your life for success. Even the smallest changes in your life can have a big impact towards your success in changing your behavior.

TAN: What are some small changes you can make right now that will affect your behavior and lead to positive changes in your life? One small change I did to improve my health was buy a doorway pullup bar and every time I need to use the bathroom, I bang out some pullups. Also, I like to do some “pissups” as well, which are just pushups every time I use the bathroom. Read Ramit’s article on active and passive barriers and try and eliminate those that are affecting you the most.

Behavioral change is hard, and I am finally ready to admit that and empathize with people and be more encouraging. Let’s make 2012 a great year with many ah-ha moments and positive life changes! 🙂