I have made a goal to write way more often and just want to improve my writing in general as well as get into the habit of writing. I’m shooting for 25 min per day minimum and also plan on incorporating the Pomodoro method into my life to increase my productivity. I’m not sure how I will have enough topics to write about, but I am planning to pump them out, whatever topic they may be. I understand the articles may be a bit unorganized and scatterbrained, but since I am just writing on the fly, I hope I can maintain some sort of structure.
Today I wanted to talk about worthiness. I honestly feel that a lot of people do not meet various goals in their lives because they feel unworthy of achieving them. Let’s start with one of the biggest desires and wants people have – the desire for more money. Ask literally anyone on the street if they’d accept 100k right there on the spot with no strings attached, and I’d say everyone would say yes.
The problem is that while pretty much everyone wants more money, they couldn’t handle a large sum like that and would most likely spend it. Deep down they would feel unworthy and undeserving of the money, and would spend it all to return to homeostasis. Generally speaking, the more money you have, the more VALUE you have provided to the world. Simply looking at jobs, there’s a reason why doctors and engineers make more money than cashiers and floor sweepers – they are providing a more valuable skill to the world and are thus worthy of greater compensation. The same can be said about the richest people in the world. They have provided a valuable product or service that has helped millions of people in some way. Whether that’s writing books about a teenage wizard, developing a software company, or creating a social platform online; these billionaires are worthy of their riches. They have given an insane amount of value to millions upon millions of people the world over.
Do you think the cashier who lives in mom’s basement and plays games all day feels truly worthy and deserving of a large sum of money? Even if he were to win the lottery, do you think he would be able to hold on to, or even increase his winnings? Highly doubtful as he would not feel worthy of the money and would do whatever means necessary (spend it) to revert back to the status quo.
The same can be said about relationships. Let’s say you are someone who is very socially anxious, and has never had a girlfriend. Again, you stay in your parents basement playing games day and night, are extremely overweight and are mildly depressed. Let’s say an amazing person somehow drops into your lap, is drop-dead gorgeous, fun to be around, amazing personality, the total package, and this person falls madly in love with you. Even if you go along with it at first, eventually you would think to yourself, “why does this person love me?” You would begin to question their love because you would feel unworthy of it. You have nothing to offer them. Nothing of value. You would eventually either directly or sub-consciously sabotage the relationship because you would feel unworthy of this person.
Most people want to blame someone or something else for their problems. They blame their parents, society, the government, the media, being bullied or abused at a young age, growing up poor, and on and on. While most people do have some skeletons in the closet, the key is total acceptance
When it comes to feeling worthy of any of our wants and desires, we must first and foremost be completely accepting of ourselves. If we do not love ourselves fully and without reservation, how can we expect anyone else to do likewise? Even if you are not your ideal self now, you must be fully accepting of who you are, where you are in life, and have a positive vision of your life for the future. You must let go of the past and accept where you are in this present moment. Just by making the decision to take full responsibility of your life situation, you will be in the position to better your life.
I know it’s way easier said than done. It’s incredibly difficult to get over your personal issues and most people never fully will. The thing you need to understand is that you are worthy of love, if you can come to love yourself. Striving to be the best version of yourself will put you in a better mindset to feel worthy of accepting all the things you want in life. For people to achieve the goals in their lives, a huge part of that is having the proper mindset in order to do so. Mindset is key. Having the right mindset can pull you from your bootstraps out of a life of misery, but that is a deeper topic for another day.
TAN: For now, just get in the habit of practicing daily affirmations. Look into the mirror and tell yourself, “I am worthy of love, and I accept myself where I am at completely.” I know it sounds a bit silly, but by doing this you will start to change the negative thought patterns that go through your head. What we tell ourselves whether out loud or in our heads is incredibly important. The universe is completely unbiased; whether you fill your subconscious with positive or negative thoughts, they will literally create the reality you live in and I have seen it in my own life and others directly. This is not some new age frou frou crap. This is a fact and I can point to countless real-life examples. Your thoughts are incredibly powerful. Once you begin to shift your mindset, you will get to the point will you will feel worthy of receiving your greatest desires. And you will attract them into your life.